Purpose: To promote the life script.
The roles of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim are portrayed in psychological games.
Serves as a training ground for powerlessness.
Prevents psychological equality in relationships.
The roles of Persecutor, Rescuer and Victim are portrayed in psychological games.
Serves as a training ground for powerlessness.
Prevents psychological equality in relationships.
Will go on as long as someone is willing to be victimized.
Think if you will about a triangle. On each end are roles that we play in life. One is the persecutor, another is the victim and the last is the rescuer.
**If anyone in this triangle changes roles, the other two roles change as well.
PERSECUTOR – “It’s All Your Fault”
- Sets strict limits unnecessarily.
- Blames
- Criticizes
- Keeps Victim oppressed
- Is mobilized by anger
- Rigid, authoritative stance
- “Critical” Parent
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR STRUCTURE
VICTIM – “Poor Me”
- Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed
- Looks for a Rescuer that will perpetuate their negative feelings.
- If stays in Victim position, will block self from making decisions, solving problems, pleasure and self-understanding.
- “Dejected” stance.
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO PROBLEM SOLVING
RESCUER – “Let Me Help You”
- Rescues when really doesn’t want to.
- Feels guilty if doesn’t rescue.
- Keeps victim dependent.
- Gives permission to fail.
- Expects to fail in rescue attempts.
- “Marshmallow” Parent
TO GET OFF THIS TRIANGLE, MOVE TO CLEAR NURTURING
SOURCE: SCRIPTS PEOPLE LIVE BY by Claude Steiner
Read more at MH Today
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And now Edward G. Muzio explains how the “triangle” works in this exemple on whiteboard.
Everyone as best as he can!
Have Joy!
Giannicola
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